Most people do not arrive at a first counselling session feeling completely clear or settled. It is common to feel uncertain, self-conscious or unsure how much to say.
A first session is a starting point rather than a test. It is a chance to explain, in whatever way you can manage, what has brought you to counselling and what kind of support you hope for.
Before the session
The first step is usually a short phone call, email or appointment enquiry. That early contact does not have to include sensitive detail. Asking whether appointments are available is enough.
Before arranging a session, you can ask practical questions about the location, timing, confidentiality, cancellations and anything that would help you decide whether the practice feels suitable. The How counselling works page explains Marie’s current process in more detail.
Arriving at the counselling room
Marie Harding Counselling Service is based at 12 Percival Street in Kanturk, Co. Cork. The Contact page includes the address and a link for directions.
If you feel nervous beforehand, you do not need to prepare a speech. Some people bring a short note or one question; others simply begin with what has felt hardest recently.
What the first conversation may cover
A first session may include:
- what led you to make contact now
- what is affecting daily life
- any immediate practical concerns
- what kind of support you are hoping for
- questions about confidentiality and how sessions work
- what the next step could be if you both decide to continue
Some people talk freely straight away. Others need more time. There is no requirement to tell your whole life story in one sitting.
Confidentiality and its limits
Confidentiality is central to counselling, but it should never be described as absolute. Any legal or safety-related limits should be explained clearly so that you can make an informed decision about what you share.
The separate guide to how confidentiality works in counselling provides more context. The IACP also publishes a public Code of Ethics and Practice explaining broad ethical principles for its members; this link is provided for general professional context and does not state or imply IACP membership.
Practical questions you can ask
It is reasonable to ask:
- how appointment timing works
- what notice is expected for cancellations or rearrangements
- how confidentiality and its limits are handled
- what happens if the service is not the right fit
- how and when ongoing sessions would be reviewed
Fees, availability and other arrangements can change, so ask Marie directly for the current details rather than relying on assumptions.
Clients under 16
For Marie’s practice, clients under 16 need a parent or guardian to sign a consent form before counselling can begin. Questions about the young person’s voice, privacy and the practical process can be discussed before the first appointment.
Deciding what happens next
You do not need to decide immediately how many sessions you will have. A first meeting can help clarify whether counselling with Marie feels suitable and whether another service, a GP or a more specialised support may also be needed.
Private counselling is not an emergency or crisis service. If you or someone else is in immediate danger, call 112 or 999. The Resources page lists official Irish and Cork-relevant supports.